Tuesday, August 29, 2006

What a crazy week in Paradise


Its been a crazy week for me.....and its only Wednesday I know. My neighbor passed away Sunday night of cancer...he was only 55...very sad. But between.....funeral visitation...cooking a meal and delivering it...gymnastics...meeting at church.....going to Scott's parents.....appointments throughout the day and Madison's homework..I'm a little stressed....and dont get me started on housework...which Scott in so many words thinks I have seemed to neglect. This morning I had to be at his parents house at 9:30....He left for work at 6:30 leaving me in the recliner with a cup of coffee and 9 month old baby...who wanted to play and crawl out of the living room. When Madison woke up at 7am....I then proceeded to beg her for 15 minutes to get out of bed and come eat her breakfast that I cooked with little baby on my hip all 21 pounds of him. At 7:40 she finally got dressed, and screamed at me fot 2 minutes over which ponytail she had to wear today something about matching her shirt not her pants...I dont know and dont really care. Then I fixed her hair while baby stood at my knees crying wanting me to pick him up. I got in the shower at 7:50 took a 5 minute shower as Madison had to catch the bus at 8:05......and try to get ready with baby ......ALONE!!!!!!
I managed.....but left the house UPSIDE down and didnt return to the housework again until 8pm tonight.......what I'm trying to say is do any of you ever get so stressed you dont know which way is up????or down?????? Out of control..sometimes????? Please let me know this is normal sometimes.....
Maybe I need to take a nap maybe I need to start saying no.......or maybe it's just another crazy day in paradise......

After you leave here today ...go over and see my dear friend Sue..@ 99 Loose Balloons....she is new to this Blog world...welcome her in with open arms.....a cup of Joe and a big smile.
Jen

11 comments:

Tina Leigh said...

Jen, first of all I want to say that you described everything so well that I felt like I was standing in your home with my hands tied! I can remember those days when I had a 2, 4 & 5 year old all wanting or needing me to go in many different directions....Plus a husband, going to nursing school and trying to keep a tiny house fit to live in with food fit to eat. I felt guilty ALL the time because there was ALWAYS something that had to be neglected. It was a hard time but a good time. I dont regret going to school but if I had it to do all over again, some how I would have wanted to devote more time to my boys and God, maybe leaving school off for a while longer. Sometimes you dont know what to do and you just have to do the best you can. I think you are doing that. How is it that life is so complicated? It seems the harder you try to simplify your life the worse it gets! I still have days that are "WIDE OPEN" but not like when I had 3 small boys at home to raise, keep clean, fed & safe! Put God first , then your husband & then your kids...I know that doesnt sound right but it is the way God wants it. Ask HIM to give you discernment each morning about what activities He wants you to do & leave off. Thats all I know. Try not to beat yourself up--your a good girl Jen!!

Angie said...

Oh girlie, this is so normal it is not even funny. I kinda felt like I was reading about my own days. Some days are better than others but all in all, chaos overcomes! Just grin and bare it!
I have learned that if I get up a wee bit earlier and spend time alone before all of my kids get up, it helps, a little, but nonetheless it helps!
*hugs* coming your way!

mom of 2 said...

It's totally normal!! Sounds like you've got a lot going on and...well...some things just have to not get done!! In my world most of the time if I'm crazy busy like that the house is a COMPLETE WRECK!!! You are human so don't beat yourself!! Your kids are clothed and fed and you've had a shower...who cares if there are dishes in the sink and laundry to be done...it will still be there later when you have the time/will to do it!! Hope your day gets better!!! :)

org junkie said...

I'm so impressed you had a shower! I have a nine month old too who doesn't stop...I hear you on the stressed part. Just take it one day at a time....but don't forget to take care of you.

Dee said...

totally NORMAL!!!! and i still have days like this..... but yes, you are right. learning to say NO sometimes is the best. just pray about it - you cannot "over-extend" yourself and expect your family to understand. trust me, been there done that... all the good works in the world will not make up for neglecting things that are important to my hubby. and you know what an unhappy hubby is like... not good!

keep your chin up - take a nap and i hope things are much better soon!!! :)

Becky said...

Yup! It's normal! Life will slow down again soon and you'll be able to get back on track. We all have cases of mommy guilt from time to time; feel like there is more we should/could be doing.

keri said...

motherhood...aaahhhhh...the insane things we do! i have known this kind of day all too well. its hard to catch your breath on those kinds of days. but just a reminder...its not like this every day (at least i hope not). one day at a time.

Sandra said...

Jen I think you just described a usual day in the life of many SAHM's. Just because we stay home does not mean that there aren't days when things are so hectic and crazy that our housework gets neglected.

What you posted today, used to me my usual days during school year. Lately though I've started getting to bed earlier and getting up at 5:45am when hubby gets up. I spend 30 minutes with him before he goes to work, and then I have until 7:30am before the kids get up.

It gives me a LOT of time to start some laundry, clean up a bit, make breakfast, even read a book and things go by MUCH smoother. :)

hang in there, we all have those days, but we all get through it and survive it.

Hugs,
Sandra

Christina said...

I'm so sorry you are feeling stressed. I definately feel like this sometimes and housework is so at the bottom of my list. Don't worry Jen, this too shall pass. I know its easier said than done, but hopefully all will get back to normal soon. I will be thinking about you. I will probably be in the same boat next week, since my husband leaves for school and I will be moving on the 5th. by myself. I guess we will just have to look forward ever day to a good cup of coffee.

Barb said...

I'm afraid it really is normal. I tried really hard to keep everything running smoothly but it was a full time job and it didn't take many unplanned for events, like your neighbor's funeral, to throw my whole world into orbit.

You're just going to have days like that. When your kids get a little older, it will start getting better. It's hard when they're this little.

One thing you can count on regarding keeping up the house. All that work won't go anywhere. It'll still be there when you find time to do it. And some things are just more important than keeping a perfect house.

Chappyswife said...

Oh yes, I have those days A LOT. Some days I feel like I am just spinning my wheels. You are not alone. Maybe your husband was having a bad day, too? :0)